"What marriage has done for me is hold up a mirror to my sin. It forces me to face myself honestly and consider my character flaws, selfishness, and anti-Christian attitudes, encouraging me to be sanctified and cleansed and to grow in godliness." -Gary Thomas
Tyler and I were talking about this "mirror" type analogy and how its so true, and it got me thinking deeper. When I get up in the morning and take a look in the mirror, I'm faced with some realities, I'm faced with some surprises and I have the chance to really look at myself for who I truly am. When I look in the mirror I see things I like, I see things I could definitely work on and I see things that I am simply never going to be able to change. I highlight the things I like, I minimize, or draw attention away from the things I don't like with a plan to work on fixing it. What if I did just this with my marriage each morning?
What if when I hold up that mirror that reveals who I really am in my marriage, I chose to highlight the good, minimize the bad and allowed the Lord to work on the things that I can't change?
I like my eyes. I was blessed with long eyelashes and so when I'm doing my makeup I highlight my eyes. I like the friendship I have with Tyler, we are good at teasing and playing and being best buddies, so I should spend my days reminding myself of our fun memories and continue to have a playful relationship with him. I should highlight that, find ways to bring my attention to Tyler's fun personality and focus on the good in our marriage.
"I wouldn’t be surprised if many marriages end in divorce largely because one or both partners are running from their own revealed weaknesses as much as they are running from something they can’t tolerate in their spouse." -Gary Thomas
I don't want to run from the things I don't like. I think if I spent more time highlighting the good I see and working hard to fix the bad I see, my marriage might have the chance to be so much more sacred and influential.